Are you subconsciously evaluating?

"Must we always choose the craziest people to fall in love with, Rohit?"

"I have a theory," I tell him. "I believe the choice of who to fall with is subsidiary to a desire to fall in love with someone"

"What are you blithering about?"

"Hear me out and think about it. At some point of time, the human mind decides it wants to fall in love. And then it scans the horizon for a target, a suitable object of affections. If it happens to lock onto someone it likes, love is born."

"All you are saying is that kids grow up into teenagers and begin to notice he opposite sex."

"Not so simple - I'm talking of a subconscious selection procedure. Subconsciously, you decide you are ready for love. Subconsciously, you scan the environment and lock onto one or more targets. If the target you've chosen also happens to be in a phase of subconscious evaluation, you are evaluated, and if your target identifies you as her target, you simply work out minor details and live happily ever after."

"Please don't ever try to be romantic with me again, Rohit."

But I'm serious! Take Anuj. He is in love with the idea of being in love and all he needs now is someone to fall in love with!"

"Anuj is just glamour-struck by love."

"So what? His devotion to love will only be strengthened when he has someone physical and real to focus it on. In fact, his love is the truest love of all. He already loves whoever he will eventually love! I think that's way more profound than loving someone simply because you like her face or money..."

"Oh come on, how can you love someone without knowing who you love?"

"But how can you let the identity of the person loved define the purity of love? It's the thought that counts, not the thinker and certainly not the thinkee! Romeo behaved like a spoilt kid, he killed himself because Juliet was dead. If his love was true, he would have continued loving her even after he found out he would never get to sleep with her. Anuj's love is not so base - we should be writing sonnets about it!"


Rohit and Shyam in "IIM - Ganjdundwara",
a book by Rohithari Rajan.


think about it.